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The Building Relationship between an Aging Parent and Live in Care for Seniors

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Live-in Care for SeniorsBob never really wanted a live in caregiver. He had never considered the notion of live in care for seniors to be something he needed. However, his family had been adamant about the necessity for him to rely on a professional and experienced caregiver for a long time. It took over a year for his son to convince him to at least consider the notion of a caregiver coming to his house and helping him with various things once a week.

He was a stubborn man, by all accounts. His family would often joke with him about his stubbornness. He was raised in a much different time than what people experience today. He didn’t get Christmas presents or birthday presents; his parents were extremely poor immigrants trying to build a better life for themselves.

He learned to be self-sufficient and independent very early on. He dropped out of school when he was 14 to get work to help his parents pay bills, buy food, keep the lights on, and more. Through his adult life, he provided for his family, helped friends when they needed it, and was proud of his self-sufficiency.

As he got older and it became clear he needed help more regularly, he began to consider the notion of a live in home care provider.

He and his family met with several and he ultimately chose a person who had some level of experience and whose personality meshed well with his own.

During the first few weeks, though, Bob was not interested in building much of a relationship with this person. Any time the caregiver struck up a conversation, he would either ignore it or walk away. After a couple of weeks, though, the caregiver proved to be patient and persistent and began to affect Bob on an emotional level. As the months passed, it became clear that Bob was relying on this caregiver for more and more things, including paying bills, running errands for him, and even answering his personal phone when family or friends called and he didn’t want to talk to them.

He usually called them back in time, but this building relationship between him and the live in home care provider was a cause for concern for Bob’s family. They didn’t want him being taken advantage of, so they contacted the caregiver directly to sit down and talk to them.

When they talked to this person, they realized this caregiver truly did care for their aging father and had no interest in taking advantage of him. It was important for Bob’s family to understand that the more time somebody spends with another individual, the more likely it is they will begin to develop a stronger bond and relationship. It can actually be a great thing for everyone involved.

For more information about how Care Resolutions can help your aging parents remain in their own homes, call 508-359-4675

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Erica Tomasello

Erica Tomasello, has a background in Education and Clinical Psychology. She has worked with her mother for years, developing Care Resolutions into a premiere agency. Erica, and in turn, the agency's staff, continue to expand their knowledge with the ever growing development of understanding the aging process and geriatric disease. We are a member with Home Care Association of America and NFIB. We are also affiliated with NASW, National Association of Professional and Executive Women, Alzheimer's Partnership, Alzheimer's Association of Mass, MA Council for Home Care Aides.

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